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The Educated Prostitute
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On that morning, I was heading to the newspaper with no new stories or article projects in mind when my editor-in-chief called me to ask whether I’ll be interested in interviewing a very special person, and to publish her memories on a daily basis in the newspaper. This very special person was a young student who became a professional prostitute. The editor-in-chief of course was only interested in raising the sales, because the golden rule in journalism is that “When there is no news, you should create the news”. And what’s better than dealing with one of the society’s prime taboos to make the news. I only had one answer to give: I’ll do it!

Morocco has the reputation of having a significant number of young prostitutes. Maybe this stereotype other Middle Eastern countries have about us is a bit exaggerated, but still, Morocco has very well structured prostitution webs, which transform innocent girls to mighty night creatures, and even export them to work outside the country. What most people ignore is that prostitution was a very prosperous activity in pre-Islamic Morocco. Native Berber tribes used to set tents on the roads after the harvest season to offer “entertainment” to peasants after a year of hard work. Prostitution then, was a social service which allowed money circulation among all the tribe’s members. Islam couldn’t change much in the anthropological habits of local people. In my opinion, the high prostitution rates among young Moroccan girls can be explained by the extreme openness to the west and the cultural predisposition to this kind of activities.

For me it was very difficult to write about the subject. Should I feel pity or contempt, compassion or disgust towards this young girl with a university degree who decided to sell her body to make a living? I’ve just decided to play the role of the objective pen, which describes what it hears and sees without the interference of any subjective feelings. Though, it was hard not to make a comparison between me and her. We were both Moroccan girls, born in the same year, listening to the same music, and with university degrees. Yet, each of us chose a different path, or maybe that path chose her.

Her name was Aïcha. She was very blond, very tall, and very beautiful, the kind of the 1960s American films’ beauty. Aïcha had to move after high school from her small town called Lhajeb to study English Literature in Meknes’ college. “My parents didn’t prepare me to live alone in the city. I come from a poor background where talking about sex is a taboo”, she told me while gazing at the horizon. In the girls’ dorms, Aïcha learned how to dress, to put on make-up, and to talk like a woman. It is also in the university dorms that she was tempted to make some pocket money to pay for the pretty clothes which can make her look like city girls. The first step to the abyss was going out incognito with older men who invited her to good restaurants, and make her discover her charms and feminity. The deadly stab was when she discovered that she had to pay with her body for the few bills to realize her late adolescence fantasies.

Once Aïcha graduated, it was difficult to leave her well-paid night life for miserable desk work or to abandon the lights of the big city for a small house in Lhajeb. She told me with a bitter voice “When I was studying it was just to make pocket money. I didn’t realize that I am a prostitute until it became my full-time job after graduating”. Aïcha is still now living in the city and working as a prostitute to send money to her family and pay for her charges. Her education and beauty make very rich and well-known men from over the world pay for her services. After filling four, 120-minute tapes and finishing the interview, the young girl looked straight into my eyes and said “I fast every Ramadan and pray five times a day for Allah to forgive me, but when the night comes I realize that I have to go work for the money.”

Today, whenever I drive across the girls’ dorms of the university, I wonder how many Aïchas are there waiting to be tempted by the big city’s illusive and misleading lights? How many would resist and how many would fall?

July 1, 2008 | 8:08 AM Comments  20 comments

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fat7i Fathi al-Dhafri
July 2, 2008 | 12:16 PM
wonderful
Dear sister

It is really wonderful
AhmedTammaam Ahmed Tammam
July 3, 2008 | 7:35 AM
My view
Not All Aisha's are same,
Aisha of Sudan was the opposite exactly ,
May Aisha of Morroco had been in abad circumstances but it is not fit definitly to go at this way just to get money,,,,
It is far away from our traditions and norm and is not an excuse to do that,
otherwise more than half of egyptians have to do that..
Thanks ya gameela for sharing,
C U Sooooooon
mdanishkhan Muhammad Danish
July 5, 2008 | 5:43 AM
Nice
Very nice...
ioanap Ioana
July 5, 2008 | 5:39 PM
nice and well written story
As Ahmed said, the circumstances and "the big city’s illusive and misleading lights" are no excuse for what she's doing. The saddest thing of it all is that she can't change that - she will remain a prostitute for most of her life.
mintyicecream chocolatl
July 6, 2008 | 5:15 AM
(:
Thank you for making me see beyond the surface and into Aisha's life. May she find true happiness in future.. It is a mistake any girl could have made.
laurakenyon LauraK
July 8, 2008 | 10:04 AM

this is a really well-written and interesting post, very eye-opening!
BlueStorm Sabina Podjed
July 12, 2008 | 11:43 AM

Great story!

When I read about the prostitutes I'm always wondering why are people so negative about them (this story is an exception) and no one speaks about men who are using their services. They are on the same level as prostitutes - if they are paying for their services, that does not make them any better than the women that are selling their bodies.
DrTamerSabry Tamer Sabry
July 12, 2008 | 11:58 AM
objective pen on serious case
really Aisha is one of youth which are victims of poverty & negligence of the community development .if she has a respectable job vaccancy ,she will pass to that route ? on the other hand why she didnot make more efforts to face her problems (money) why there is Sarah & Aisha in the same age & with degree university & same community that is need an answer from u sarah (Great article my dear friend:)
dmano Dan Manolescu
July 12, 2008 | 2:54 PM
...
For every Aisha there are tons of girls everywhere who work hard to make a living not selling their bodies and disrespecting themselves... not to mention Allah. Her story is a slap in the face to all the females of the world. She is taking the easy way out. A real shame. : (
mullertime MullerTime!
July 12, 2008 | 5:34 PM

Well done girl! excellent article, very well written! lets keep in touch i am also a journalist in mexico at the moment studdinng in new zealand
orangekatpurple orangekatpurple
July 12, 2008 | 9:17 PM

Thanks Sarah, well written.

I think Aisha is lucky to make her choice in career. Aisha looks like she has made a rational decision about her employment (as opposed to people who do not have informed consent when entering the sex industry). I do not see this as a slap in the face to women -or disrespecting her body. This is an employment choice. Not a mistake, poor choice, sad, bad judgment or victim of circumstance. This is an educated and empowered woman.

I am not sure about the support structure for students in Morocco, but some element of financial support while Aisha was completing her study without needing to work might be a way in the future. Also solid community owned sexual health programs & services for rural areas, to ensure if young people do move to the city and choose to have sex or engage in sex work, how to protect themselves from sexually transmitted infections, like HIV/AIDS.

I feel some of the comments made here contribute to the reason why sex workers continue to be pushed to the fringes of our community.
And while the sex industry is not embraced by the community - organised crime and exploitation will continue.
mambh82 Mohamed Bani Hashim
July 13, 2008 | 1:17 AM

Great piece sarah

It’s a matter of a decision every one make a step toward their major goal. People even look for status, power or money. Most western women who come from poor families work as prostitutes or dancers just to pay for their studies. Once they achieve their goals they quit it what that say? is prostitution a good career do we have a goal or we jut like to spend money here and there are we planning to own a house, raise a family , have a good job position and a good career
Is really a prostitution is a good career????
okowa Mark Okowa
July 13, 2008 | 2:55 AM
How about this view
That prostitution is an activity just like dancing, singing and that which entertains others who want to pay for it, and that people like Aïcha may only need proper training on how to do their job professionally and safely?

Why are many women dying even as I write this as a result of unsafe abortion? Because in most countries, it has been vilified and portrayed as evil and bad. How about look at it differently with the understanding that there are many prostitutes across the globe, and that people are having sex and getting unwanted pregnancies, which may require abortion? So where do we go from there?

I think we may need to move a step further, recognize prostitution as a profession, with many willing players and customers, provide them with necessary support and health schemes, tax them and let Aïcha and many others earn a decent living from what they like and know.

As Sarah Zaamin puts it and I quote “What most people ignore is that prostitution was a very prosperous activity in pre-Islamic Morocco. Native Berber tribes used to set tents on the roads after the harvest season to offer “entertainment” to peasants after a year of hard work. Prostitution then, was a social service which allowed money circulation among all the tribe’s members”. Why haven’t we vilified the ancient ways of life which recognized such services?

Luthvanking Mr Lutherking
July 13, 2008 | 4:39 AM
Its Sad
Its a sad thing though, that a well educated girl can get so low just to make money for a living. Aicha needs spiritual help too and although she prays five time a day and fast during the ramadan, she has to ask for forgiveness from God.
Aicha can also change from what she is now to a better life with her educated career. All she need do is make up her mind as she did before being a prostitute and before she knows it, time will help change everything.
There're many of us out there who are like aicha. So many univeristy mail students in Africa would get a course validated by sleeping with a professor or lecturer and many more...
We need Devine intervension for the world is fast becoming a dangerous haven.
bbsr BRENDA
July 14, 2008 | 2:38 AM

Reading this bog pieace has left me feeling so saddened, who should take the blame? Aicha, her parents or the country where she comes from for not being responsible for its citizens?Africa is a place where an issue like prostitution is regarded as a taboo and when such acts are increasingly becoming predominant in most capital cities in Africa, am forced to believe that we as human beings are beginning to loose our selves... could it be ignorance, what in life is so precious than not loving our bodies?
As for Aicha, I believe its never too late to a make a decision and stop being aprostitute, some one needs to keep talking to her and probably oneday she will be convinced that its awrong act.
Am hoping that she will leave this act and do something like find herself abetter job, something she will like.
Sarah, thanks for this... alot of acts takes place beneath and its only through such articles that they are uncovered. Keep it up.
aoloyede aoloyede
July 14, 2008 | 10:20 AM
RE-EDUCATED PROSTITUTE
A GREAT ONE!
OBVIOUSLY THIS SCENE HAPPENS ALMOST IN EVERY CITADEL. AND AS IT WERE BREEDS SUCH AISHAS. IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO DESIST AT THIS POINT IN TIME BECASUSE IT HAS GONE INTO THE FIBRIC OF HER SYSTEM. IT TAKES A SUPERNATURAL SURGERY TO REALY CUT OFF. YOU HAVE REALY PLAYED THE ROLE OF AN OBJECTIVE WRITER. CHEERS!
minime-kg Kimia
July 14, 2008 | 12:47 PM
paying for education through commodification of one's body
Thanks for sharing this Sarah. In Canada, there are also many women who strip (erotic dancing) to help pay for bills particularly tuition for school. Prostitution is also common here and a source of income/employment for many women, who feel it is a profession like any other. I just wonder how many would continue to sell their bodies if they had other, equally lucrative, opportunities. It's hard to hold an opinion on prostitution, being a women myself, without feeling like I am being discriminative or lacking understanding of the systemic barriers in society that drive women to do this... yet many children and young women who become professional prostitutes never were given a choice in the matter and their stories must be told as well when having a discussion about the legalization/societal acceptance of prostitution...

nightsangel angel
July 15, 2008 | 6:25 AM

this story made me understand that prostitution is not a job for people who are uneducated or from a poor background, i think people have the choice of doing the job that makes them feel happy and that's what counts . i think Aicha is doing this job because she likes doing it ,it's good to see her practicing her beliefs . I also think that prostitution is becoming acceptable today in society and people are becoming more liberal no matter their religion or background.
Stepspourdemain stepspourdemain
July 15, 2008 | 1:03 PM

What can I say, we are a product of our choices in life....We all make wrong choices but we can remap our lives WHEN WE REALISE THE CONSEQUENCES OF OUR ACTIONS...Aicha acted based on her understanding of what her option WAS....I cant blame her for her INITIAL choice TO PROSTITUTE HERSELF FOR SURVIVAL ...but when she graduated...she could have turned the stakes in her favour...IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO TURN BACK...To all the Aichas' out there....

TAKE A BOLD STEP AND RE-EVALUATE YOUR CHOICES....

.....Regardless of how bad things might seem,....there is never one solution to a problem....THERE ARE ALWAYS TWO....we only choose to pick the ones that give immediate gratification/solution.

Perserverance is a virtue just as much as patiencce....

May God give us all the wisdon to discern between choices that give immediate/longterm gratification

orangekatpurple orangekatpurple
July 21, 2008 | 8:11 PM
religion vs employment
why is sex work seen as a moral issue?
rather than an employment issue?

so, its ok to work for survival but not when she graduated?
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